Growing up, I fully felt that I could be president one day.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that that’s a slightly more unique perspective than it should be. It was only when I got older that I started to get the message that women are less, and women are not supposed to be so ambitious.
Feminism, it’s a complicated word because it has so much history, and it is a very triggering word for a lot of people. When I hear it, even I have a strange reaction to it. And yet, it really just means, desire for equality for women and men.
There are so many strengths that women have innately, that complement strengths that healthy men have.
And it’s learning how to embrace our femininity, and come into the fullest strength of that—whatever that means for you. And not feel like you have a glass ceiling over your head, that you can’t break through, because you’re a woman. Feminism, to me, is the destruction of that ceiling.
There are a group of women in my life who I just wouldn’t know what to do with myself without them. They are incredibly strong, nuanced, flawed human beings.
The women I work with are a part of that tribe.
They are so hardworking and so talented, and I’ve made an effort to surround myself with people who care, and who are willing to get real. They tell me if I’m abandoning myself, or if I’m living in my head and disconnected from my heart, which happens a lot. I strongly recommend valuing your friendships above anything else, in order to live a sane life.
One thing that has taken me a long time to learn is that your body, as it’s shaped, is beautiful. And the things about you that are a bit odd, or a bit strangely proportioned, can be where your greatest allure comes from.
I’m learning how to play up parts of myself that I’ve been kind of ashamed of in the past.
Like for instance, I don’t have a stick figure body. I’m softer. I’m starting to appreciate that as I get older. I still struggle with it but I’m appreciating that I have a feminine body.
I’ve struggled my whole life with figuring out how to nourish myself because I always feel like I’m on the verge of burnout. The more that I get in touch with who I am, and what I care about, and what I love, putting things on my body that are that gross and wasteful, feels bad. I would rather have a small amount of clothes, that are really beautiful, that I really care about, that feel good; than a huge amount of stuff that feels junky and gross.
My spirit opens and flows outwards, by being able to make music, it is a release for me.
I can feel my heart opening when I sing. I can feel the difference in my body, and music helps unlock that in people too. Music is sometimes the thing to get you through the worst times. It’s so personal, and it becomes your story.
I love that. I love that I write it for me, and then I give it to you, and it’s yours. And it relates to the details of your life, and I will never really understand how far that goes. That’s a lovely mystery. Even this morning, I met a guy here, and he said that he found my music in seventh grade, and it helped him through some of the roughest times in his life. And I was there for him, and I had no idea. That’s magic to me.
Being a part of the Harry Potter world, there’s a real sweetness to it.
It’s a movie about magic, and the fan base is largely introverted people, who want to believe in magic. It’s so dear, and they really care about it. And the cast and the crew, and David Yates, the director, everybody cares.
It’s really nice to be a part of that — I don’t feel like I’m endorsing something negative. I mean, there’s darkness in this (movie) world, but there’s darkness in the world. But it’s not demeaning or anything like that. And I’m really proud to be a part of it.
Do. “Do” is the thing that I’ve had a hard time with.
Just work at it. Don’t let the fear of being imperfect keep you from moving forward; work at things, fail, make mistakes, but do. Put energy towards where your heart is leading you towards, what your heart longs for.
Because honestly, every woman that I admire, that is extraordinary, goes through massive self-doubts, even though I may think she’s a goddess.
It’s about walking the path of your art, regardless of anything else, and you will be rejected. Continue to walk, and don’t take it as some sign from the universe that you shouldn’t do it.
*words have been lightly edited and condensed for clarity
Creative Director: Ciaraleaf Meaney
Photographer: Sylvia Austin
Stylist: Connie Berg
Set Designer: Mat Cullen
Make Up: Dotti
Hair: Christopher Naselli
Photo Assistant: Taylor Dorrell
Stylist Assistant: Ana Tess
Words told to: Laura Jones
Copy Editor: Sonjia Hyon